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I don't know what i want to be,  A little sad,but more happy may be A little ambitious but more content may be I want to cry a little yet laugh like crazy! I want my own sunshine and some moonlight may be But above all that i get,want or need in life
I just want to be me...the way i am the way i will always be...:-)

Have and want : two sides of the same coin

One look at our lives(and I don't mean to generalize),and all I get to see,hear and feel is the throbbing of these things called 'have tos'.I have to finish this,I have to do this,I have to pick her up,I have to go there etc'.It's good in a way,that our life is quite organised.We don't really 'have to' plan anything voluntarily,out of a sheer want or desire for them(you're lucky if you're on the other side of this!).
But on the flip side,it's really not that fun or interesting.Come to think of it,it doesn't even do anything for us,except keeps a check on the things that need to be done. Are needs enough to sustain a quality life?Should life be a totally hand -to-mouth kind of a thing?
I don't know...and even if I did,I wouldn't endorse this view.We are as important as the world.After all,we make the world.The world doesn't make us.
If we have a huge list of 'shoulds,musts,haves' etc; well,someone created it in the first p…

Quick Judgments!

It's human nature to just look at someone and quickly decide what sort of a person he/she is.Not even 'may be', 'could be', 'might be'...simply he/she 'is'.

Categories come easily to us, as though that was and is the prime objective for us.To meet people, talk to them, see them behave in a particular manner; for our own convenience or peace of mind, we label them as 'good',bad','weird','rude','annoying','sweet' etc

It doesn't really matter where the person is coming from,  or what kind of a situation he/she is in, at that particular moment or for many moments to come.

Why are we so quick to judge? to assume? to believe in our assumptions?

And it always feels good when we find out,  that our so-called 'judgment' about the person was correct.

"See!i told you he's like that only!" 

Where do these judgments come from? why is it so important for us to assume and believe in ,what we think abo…

A little gyan

It's not important to live.
It's important to live well and to live life ,on your own.The fact is ,that it is our life and we are here, to make it the best possible life we can.If someone else had to live our life,or if we had to live our life based on others,it would cease to be ours anyway!
The fact is, that we all want a happy,comfortable life.But,without any price.Its like trying to sit on four pieces of furniture at the same time-which,is kind of..not possible!:D After all,one bum divided into halves..where all can it sit at once!
But that's what we keep trying to do all the time.Want the best of the world,without trading anything. Sit at home and dream of becoming a millionnaire..and then crib that nothing ever happens your way!But the fact is,that you never really moved your say the least! Only if our wants,wishes,desires,ambitions,dreams etc could fly.They would just know when to come flying to us and everything would be super perfect!
It doesn't happe…

I keep walking..

I walk a little
and I walk some more..
Waiting for life to open its door..

A wait that waits, endlessly
A hope that hopes,hopelessly
A thought that comes and then thinks some more..

I keep walking
and waiting some more..

When you know that you don't know..

Amidst so many things that we keep doing day in and day out,there are bound to be some things that we have no clue about.

There are these blank moments..where you only have one phrase running through your mind-"I don't know".
It's like suddenly your world of knowledge,wisdom,ideas becomes a big zero.
Then starts the worry, the panic...and perhaps frustration."Why don't I know this?","How could I not know","What do I do now!"..and interestingly,this state of affairs prepares the base for some new ideas and insights.
In essence,its this zero that leads to more permutations and combinations.

There is nothing as absolute as knowing or not knowing.With so much information that we keep receiving and filtering constantly;we do know something about everything.How and when we use it, depends on what knocks on that particular department of our mind.

So this 'I don't know' is not really a genuine state of not knowing.Its a state wh…

why friendships are important

We all give lot of importance to the very idea of friendship.By that I don't mean to say that you need to always do something extraordinary for someone or be perfect in every way possible,to be someone's friend.
Friendship is nothing but an extension of yourself...your friends reflect what you are,what you stand for,what you believe in.
Just like how our parents and siblings mean the world to us,so do our friends.Its not a revelation that m sharing.But just a simple fact..that sometimes we all tend to take for granted.

Every occasion that comes along in our lives,opens the door for all kinds of friends to walk in and be a part of it in some special way.
There are those whose mere presence is simply comforting.An tiny effort that they make for you,stays with you for years to come.Even though you may not talk everyday,may not share your life stories,but the fact that they somehow manage to be a part of your life.. is enough.

Then come the close buddies,with whom you…

Marriage,Marriage and more..

We all grow up thinking and fantasizing about that day when we will get married to someone truly made for us. When that day arrives, it’s nothing short of being just perfect! Right from the clothes to kind of lights, decorations, music, ambience, people; it’s all about making the day wonderful and amazing.

Just being with that special someone, paints our life in a different hue. Some people find differences attractive and some revel in the similarities they share with their partners. At some point or the other in our lives, we do feel the need to find an anchor to hold us steady. But if marriage is the next and most obvious step to legitimize and sanctify the relationship, then what changes afterward?

Those who have been able to sustain their marriage, would probably know what it takes to hold on. Yet there are people, who enter this institution with fancy ideas, but can never understand the institution itself.

Marriage is like entering a new phase of life, a new beginning, and for so…

The gift of conditions

The gift of conditions

There is a purpose behind everything that you do, you are made to do...there is a learning behind it. A lesson that is supposed to stay with you, throughout your life.

Every time we end up losing something close to our heart, it breaks us-physically,mentally,emotionally.We feel as if things are just never going to be the same again.But what we fail to realize is ,that overtime, this loss ends up making us stronger than before.This strength need not be very obvious to us or to others. But something inside us changes.

Every time we do something that we dislike, hate or do out of mere obligation; it also brings out a different side to us. Many a times I do things for the sake of them. Its only afterwards that I realize, that may be consciously,I would have never done them. And if, that were to be the case,I would have never ended up helping someone. Better still,feeling good about the fact that I could make a difference in somebody else’s life.

There are lessons and sm…