A Life Well Spent

What does it really mean to have a well-spent life? We spend our whole lives in trying to decipher the meaning behind our simple yet complex lives and even then, are left with unanswered questions.

We're always trying to define our lives in heavy terminologies like passion, meaning, quest, essence etc and yet, are not quite able to.

For me, all these big terms are contained within three essentials of life-
1.Being good to one's own self
2.Being good to others
3. Balancing 1 & 2

That's all that there is to life..isn't it? and many battles are lost because we couldn't decide which essential to fight for and when and most importantly, how.

Essential number 3 is ideally what we all keep striving for. This essential is what makes the journey that much more difficult. 

At different times one essential will take precedence over the other. Sometimes, you have to give yourself up for the sake of 'your' others. And at times, you will have to put yourself forward -at the risk of being called selfish.

Winning one battle will most definitely entail losing another one.

That's where we begin to lose the plot.

The human mind is so designed, to constantly focus on what is lost than to see what it has gained.

This automatic focus on the loss is what takes away the meaning, purpose, quest, and passion from winning at a time when you most certainly needed to win.

Yes, we all wait for a time when both the parties at war would simply call it a truce or arrive at a settlement that they both can be happy about. But this is an ideal.

In the real world, a battle mostly ends with one side winning. Survival of the fittest.

That's what happens in the emotional world too. At a point in time, one emotion or set of emotions will supersede the others and we must understand that that's what makes that moment meaningful.

Thus, we create our lives by creating such small moments of meaning.

At the end of the day, we know that we've lived a well-spent life when we are able to look back and see that we were able to create a million moments of meaning for each of the essentials.

The battle of life is not as straightforward as we would like it to be. Sometimes, winning can be as painful as losing. 

But as long as we know, that we were able to fulfill a greater meaning or purpose behind choosing to fulfill an essential, it would all make perfect sense.

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